Friday, June 13, 2008

Mothers. . .

I am very preturbed by women who are so anxious to become mothers that they do everything they can to join the club immediately after getting married. Women should have to take parenting classes before they even get married. It should probably be a prerequisite to becoming sexually active, for that matter. This is due to the fact that a lot of mothers have a second child right away so they won't have to deal with the behavioral problems of their first child. The alleged logic is that if there's a younger child to care for, they can ignore the older one.
However, any child whose mother ignores him in his formative years is most likely to commit suicide at a very young age. The child will start saying things about killing himself, the mother says "We don't say things like that," the child clams up about his self-destructive feelings and then he internalizes every negative feeling. His negative behaviors increase, and when he finally can't stand the way people are treating him, he writes what he can of a note. (These notes appear very disorganized, rather "helter-skelter.") Then he uses whatever means he has available to off himself. Many times he takes others -- who appear to be random people -- with him, first. These other victims are not actually random, usually, however. As soon as the boy starts internalizing all negative feelings, every even REMOTELY nasty glance or slight of any type will become very hurtful to him. So these are the people he takes with him, if any.
Seemingly every other person even remotely linked to the boy (usually by this time a grown man) insists that "oh, it's never the parents' fault! Some people are just really sick in the head." But the person who made him "sick in the head" was his mother, who is by now receiving loads of sympathy, unfortunately. My best friend in high school committed suicide, as did my Spanish class table partner, and much later my fiance. In each situation, I knew it was going to happen, but I also knew that there was nothing I could do to stop it from taking place.
The fact of the matter is that it's the mother's fault, NOT the child's.

Even regarding the young teenage girl who was cyber-bullied by her neighbor-lady, the mother was at fault. On the "Dr. Phil Show" she even repeated what her daughter said to her after she (the mother) reamed out her (the daughter), "You're supposed to be my MOM. You're supposed to be ON MY SIDE!!"

Furthermore, the guy, who shot 32 people at Virginia Tech before turning the gun on himself, was also one of the victims that day. But he was the FIRST victim that had died that day, not the last. For he was victimized from his fomative years. If you point a finger at who was responsible for the violence at V.T. that day, point you're finger at that guy's mother. For, evil can only come from evil, and it is truly SHE who is evil.

That said, I have no sympathy nor empathy, nor compassion for any mother of any suicide victim(s), for she alone is to blame. Not even an abusive father is at fault for a suicide, for there is something very different expected of mothers than of fathers. This expectation is inborn in the human race. The mother needs to stand behind her children, in all things, and that includes giving them attention when they need it, which time is always. That's right; you don't get to shower one child with attention while ignoring the other. When you become a mother, your WHOLE WORLD revolves around your child(ren).
Get it? Good.

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